Are your kids having meltdowns over seemingly trivial things?
Do they act rude or get snappy for no apparent reason?
Are they always in your face asking for attention?
Do they refuse to listen to you or pretend not to hear?
Are they so stuck on their screens that they throw tantrums when you set limits?
Do they fight with each other?
Are they cranky, bored, lethargic, sad, or lonely?
How do you regain your sanity and your good relationship with your children while the world around you seems to be going haywire?
Parenting has taken on new dimensions since this Covid-19 pandemic swept into our lives like a nightmare we can’t wake up from. As if it weren’t hard enough already, you now have to juggle your full or part-time job, or lack thereof, with the fact that your kids are in schools that have made radical changes to keep them safe. Or they’re at home, struggling with virtual school. If you’re working from home, you might be dealing with trying to focus on your job while keeping your kids on task. Even if you work away from home, you might be coming back to frustrated kids who get into funky moods.
Your school-age children have spent all day seated behind plastic shields. They’ve had lunch in the hallway. Worn a mask all day. Stayed six feet away from their friends. Those who go to virtual school probably feel left out. They miss the activities they used to look forward to. Sports, dance, music, clubs, and drama have been canceled or put on Zoom. Even play dates are on Zoom. With the strangeness, the “new normal” of virtual almost–everything, come mixed feelings.
Those big feelings––usually anger, frustration, or moodiness––are usually cover ups for the scarier feelings of deep sadness and the fear that this will last forever. The thing is, kids usually can’t express these profoundly disturbing emotions with words. So, what do they do? Well, unwittingly, they show it with their behaviors. Their meltdowns, tantrums, goofiness, sarcasm, or disobedience is their way of letting us know that something’s wrong.
How do you figure out what’s causing the misbehavior?
At True North, I’ll help you decipher what’s going on under the surface. I’ll work directly with you and your children to help you understand the emotional storms they’re doing their best to survive. We’ll sit down together and figure out how to recognize what your kids might be saying through their behavior.
Instead of arguing with your kids, what if you could create the kind of relationship where you could communicate peacefully and work together to solve any conflicts or problems you come across?
My goal is to help you learn the skills to communicate in a way your child can understand, and feel seen and heard. I’ll help you understand that the child’s natural form of expression is through actions, especially their play. Together, we’ll look at your child’s strengths and build a path based on what’s working. You’ll learn how to de-escalate stressful interactions, set limits while being kind and firm, problem–solve with your child, and have a more peaceful connection that will last for years to come.
Your child, using the language of play, will gain social–emotional skills like using effective communication, identifying emotions, understanding how their words and actions affect others, taking responsibility for what they say and do, and honing their skills in problem-solving.
I am a Registered Play Therapist (RPT), and also a Registered Art Therapist (ATR), with over a decade of experience working with parents, children, and teens. My specialty is understanding and facilitating your children’s natural forms of expression: play and art.
Here is my commitment to you:
- I will give you the tools you need to create a calm and peaceful way of connecting and communicating with your children.
- I will help your children build a foundation for understanding themselves, building trust, gaining self-confidence, setting personal goals, and being fully self-expressed.
With the incertitude and change that the Covid-10 pandemic has wrought in our lives, we need something we can hang on to. Our lives have been profoundly affected by changes in our routines, our responsibilities, and the fact that no one is sure of what lies ahead. Life, though, doesn’t stop. Some events make it even harder, like losing a job or having reduced hours, needing to quit to supervise a child at home. Add to that other possible emotional upheavals: marital stress, divorce, separation, illness, or loss. Even positive changes in the family, such as the birth of a baby, moving to a new home, or changing schools, can affect your child’s mood and behaviors.
You don’t have to travel this journey alone.
My pledge to you is that I will help you navigate these stormy waters and find your way to the place you always wanted to be. With weekly visits to your home, I’ll work directly with you and your child or teen to grapple with the tough issues and challenges they are facing. I will teach you to support your child in building confidence, and a sense of well-being, self-value, and personal responsibility.
Many parents don’t realize that their child’s success in life, their ability to have good relationships as adults, as well as their capacity to find happiness in healthy, productive ways, rather than in risk-taking behaviors and addictions, depends on the quality of their relationship with the parents.
To find out more about how I can work with you, you may contact me at 561.351.4256. Please leave a voice message or a text and I’ll be sure to get back to you during business hours.
To your joyful and peaceful parenting!
Empowered Parent Coaching:
I offer long distance support in my Empowered Parent Coaching in the form of half hour or one hour phone sessions. My commitment is to help you get to know your children in a new way that best serves your relationship, and to assist your children in discovering their strengths and finding their joy, self-confidence, and motivation.
Contact Kim Wallant to find out more about True North Creative Therapy and Coaching. Please leave a message and your call will be returned, Monday to Friday, within one business day.
True North Creative Therapy
Lantana, FL 33462